BunnyEatsWolf
After a day of philosophical study and thoughts on nihilism, causality and ascending the ladder from Descartes to Hume to Kant to Nietzsche, I’m longing for a good cigar, smooth scotch and satisfying conversation.
Where are my fellow deep thinkers? I promise I won’t go too deep
A Humpday reminder for some of my lovelies being affected by the social rhetoric constantly spewed about our young brothers struggling to get their lives and coins together … and the stereotypical rants about single black women … and the criticism of those with voices different from the crowd …
DON’T LET WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK DECIDE WHO YOU ARE!!
You are your own unique self with your own journey—not what “they” think, but what You think. So keep on pushing and keep doing You
#bunnyeatswolf
There are so many forms of Love and so many ways to show Love. Courage is one of my favorites 🥰
Courage is NOT the absence of fear.
* It’s taking a step forward even when you’re afraid.
* It’s speaking up for yourself even when intimidated.
* It’s advocating for others even when it’s unpopular.
* It’s doing the right thing even in the face of obstacles.
COURAGE is staring fear in the eyes and doing it anyway!
Friday Fun Facts about hugs
* Hugs are calming
* Hugs boost oxytocin
* Hugs boost confidence
* Hugs improve heart health
* Hugs boost the immune system
* Hugs reduce psychological stress
* Hugs improve intimate relationships
Go out and hug your people my lovelies … I’ll be waiting for mine
A little reminder that applies to all genders, ages and races—all of us.
A person’s greatest emotional needs are to feel Wanted, and to feel Appreciated.
When a person feels wanted, they show up in ways that benefit both of you. And when a person feels appreciated, they always do more than what’s expected.
Showing love takes much less energy than hate—plus it feels better and reaps so many more benefits Go out and show some love my lovelies
I’d like to share something about PDA—specifically holding hands.
They say that a couple holding hands is very intimate—sometimes even more intimate than sex. Do you know why?
Because there’s something intuitive about it—something base, something knowing, something native that’s being innately shared.
Maybe it’s the nerve endings on the fingertips, or the sensory receptors in the hands—that warm contact that signals to the brain protection, affection.
Not sure, but either way, it’s a good feeling. And one thing’s for sure is that people feel closer when they hold hands. The heart beats just a little bit slower and in tuned with the other 🥰 Happy Friday my lovelies
~~Language in its highest expression is music.
~~Desire in its purest form is honesty because it doesn’t need proof to be true.
~~Love is simply folie ´a deux.
I have a new perspective that I’d like to share and explore with you guys: Should we thank our partners for the experience of a relationship instead of being angry or upset when it ends?
There is a shared human experience with every relationship—unique feelings that are meant to be shared, explored and repeated for as long as you can sustain them.
I would argue that these are unique feelings that you would never experience without that person at that time in that moment and circumstance.
When those moments expire and feelings wane or no longer serve either of you, then the relationship (as it were) has also expired—perhaps it could be transformed into something new, but as it were, it is no longer.
My point in this perspective is that no matter how painful the loss or how melancholy the mood, we should be thankful for the experience and memories given to us by our partner and thank them for sharing a part of their lives with us that produced a new experience.
Anger and regret is usually misplaced when what we really feel is loss and disappointment. Just a thought What do you guys think?
Yesterday I posted about love. Today I’d like to discuss Healing and attempt to confute a widely-held talking point.
Emotional Healing does not have to be done alone or in isolation. When you heal alone, you usually learn how to BE alone—which defeats the purpose of healing.
However, when you heal in the company of others, you learn to better coexist with others despite your challenges.
Particularly when it comes to relationships. When we isolate ourselves to heal a broken heart or trust issues, for example, we lose the perspectives of the opposite sex (or preferred gender) and most often we end up healing from the perspective of protecting our heart FROM a potential partner, rather than mending our heart WITH a partner.
We begin to view new partners through a sign that says “danger, proceed with caution” and build up a wall that only keeps out what we truly want to let in.
Healing does not have to be alone. Just be candid, honest and engage with others and you’ll see that the journey is easier and worthwhile. Be kind my lovelies 😊
Do not be afraid to start over in life.
Life serves up all of the adventures and opportunities that we can handle.
You can build or rebuild anything you “truly” want.
So, take an adventure my lovelies, or grab a new opportunity.
You won’t regret it 😉
As a wise man once said …
“Love is passion, obsession, something you can’t live without. I say fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who will love you the same way back.
How do you find them? Well, you forget your head and you listen to your heart.
The truth is that there’s no sense living life without love. It may be hard sometimes but you have to try because if you haven’t tried, you haven’t lived.”
So stay open my lovelies. Who knows? Lightening could strike 😊❤️🩷
INDEPENDENCE has two faces: Freedom and Loneliness.
* You have freedom to come home whenever you want, but it may be lonely with no one waiting for you at night.
* You have freedom to sleep wherever you want with whomever you want, but may feel lonely without a single someone waking you in the morning with a kiss and conversation.
* You can do whatever you want whenever you want, but it may feel lonely without someone to ask where are you or what you’re doing.
What is the face of Your independence my lovelies … freedom or loneliness? Is male and female independence overrated?
Something to think about 🙂
As we traverse this wonderfully challenging world of ours, we often find that it’s easy to embrace success and hard to accept failures. But … keep in mind that the greatest wisdom often comes from the biggest wounds.
So, don’t be afraid to fail my lovelies because there are always lessons learned as a consolation prize.
Peace and Joy—Contrary to popular belief, they don’t have to be earned and they’re not hard to find. Oftentimes, we’re just standing in the way or blocking them from our path.
What works for me is to have an open heart, exercise kindness and show grace—that’s my quick path to happiness 😊 Try it my lovelies. Peace and Joy is out there for you too 😉
Footsteps in our community are created when someone makes a difference and sets an example for others to follow. Black footsteps have an even greater impact.
Have you established your footsteps yet? Start today and continue all year Happy Black History Month my lovelies!
Reminders #24-26:
—LIVE your best life now!—do it right away because life is too short to wait for the right moment
—LOVE as much as you can every chance you get because the more love you give, the more love you’ll receive
—NURTURE your Happy everyday! Go on, you deserve it
Hey there my lovelies on this 2024 eve to New Year’s Eve, I feel inspired to tell y’all that what the world needs is a GOOD OLD-FASHIONED LOVE STORY because love makes the heart smile … and when the heart smiles, those positive vibes will make someone—at least one someone—or maybe even the world—feel happy 😊
So spread joy my lovelies … make someone smile … share the love ❤️ and be loved 💕
The value of deep conversation is priceless. When someone shares their deep thoughts and ideas and feelings, it is a gift. Our job is to listen with curiosity and an open mind to fully understand the reason and purpose and meaning of what is said … not just words spoken 😉
When everything around you seems dark and folks just seem sad or depressed, look again with different eyes … because YOU just might be the light needed to make a difference 🙂 Be intentional my lovelies and make someone smile today 😃 #holidayemotions #MakeADifference
Uh-oh … here she goes again 😁 SATURDAY MORNING RANT:
With all the talk lately in male-centered social spaces about women only wanting men for what they offer financially, the question of “Why?” never seems to come up. It never seems to occur to men that women are not insane, unreasonable creatures without intention or intelligence around their moves and decisions.
In today’s pee-pee laden dating pool where women far outnumber men, the primary reasons (among many others) that women seek men is for love and companionship—not for money. While the primary reasons that men seek women (among others) is for sex and social display.
So, if you accept that there are divided intentions among the genders, then it should not be hard to accept that there is an obvious (or at least appearance of) quid pro quo in today’s dating market. Some call it “transactional dating”—and it is everywhere!
Okay my lovelies, lets look at it through basic, sociobiological lenses:
Men seek sex. With that knowledge, and in exchange, women ask for a man’s love, along with his protection and provision. On the other hand, women seek love. With that knowledge, and in exchange, men ask for access to a woman’s body, along with her devotion and loyalty.
Fast forward to today’s lens:
If men want women to stop “focusing on his finances”, then men should offer something else of value to her … right away and upfront. And, the truth is that the most valuable things that a man can offer a woman is not financial—they are his time, his attention, and most of all, his love.
We’ve gotta do better my lovelies! . . . because in these transactional, quid pro quo days of dating, men and women are like ships passing in the fog—we’ve truly missed the mark.
Life becomes more meaningful when you realize that you’ll never live the same moment twice. So when you feel it … when you’re enjoying a moment … and when that spark happens, take a moment to savor, enjoy and appreciate it. Life is good my lovelies!
The heaviest burdens that we carry are the thoughts in our heads. Be kind to yourself my lovelies. Let it all go and bask in the beauty that life has to offer.
Dating is like being on vacation. Relationships are like relocating to a new home.
When I was dating, I would think of a beautiful man like a vacation. When we would see each other, it would be like visiting a place that looks and feels good for one reason or another—relaxing, fun, interesting, exciting, different, unusual, adventurous, exotic …
· A place where I can go to escape the monotony of my current situation.
· A place to exist for a while that adds excitement or relief, something new and explorative.
· A place that provides the thrill of discovery—new things to hold my interest and emotions that only surface when a moment is temporary.
· A place that offers reciprocal pleasure from the same feelings of discovery and excitement and joy.
· A place where you look forward to going back to for more of the same or even new experiences.
· A place that plants itself in certain corners of your mind and becomes memories and lessons and springboards.
And … ultimately … a place, if visited regularly, and if reciprocal feelings and experiences allow, becomes home and you relocate instead of visit.
. . . Welcome to your new relationship.
AGING IS UNDERRATED and should be celebrated—I’m having a blast. I love my 50s.
I know when to make it easy and when to just take it easy. I’ve finally learned some of the cheat codes to happiness y’all … and I use them everyday!
Life is good
I love when I realize I’m handling a situation better than my old self would have. For all my lovelies out there—you’ve worked hard to get to where you are now. Don’t forget to celebrate your wins
STAY CURIOUS my lovelies … you’re still here in this life so there’s still much more to learn.
Some of Life’s greatest gift are new insights, new perspectives, new discoveries … looking at the world through fresh eyes—like the eyes of a child.
There is no limit to what we can still learn about each other and what we can still become
One of the best feelings in the world is knowing that someone is happy because of you.
5 BUNNYEATSWOLF RULES:
1. Stare fear in the eyes and do it anyway – courage shapes the bravery that success is riding on
2. Never stop learning – read a book, attend a lecture, get a mentor
3. Stay on your grind – don’t stop because you’re tired. Remember success is a marathon, not a sprint
4. Be grateful not regretful – when you feel regret, know that life just showed you something to never repeat
5. Stay humble – life feels better that way
A message for some of my lovelies out there (you know who you are)
Sometimes, you just gotta let go. The same thing that saved your life, will kill you if you hang on too long.
Ok, carry on!
Overheard someone say that smoking a cigar is like the perfect lover … calm, slow with the perfect draw, perfect release, perfect wind.
Yeah, I like that … Stay sexy and smoky my BOTLs and SOTLs.
Its hard to learn if the only books in your library are those that confirm what you already know or believe.
“Aha” moments come when we look through windows of the unknown … not from staring at mirrors that reflect what we already know.
Echoing the voices of the logical and unbiased: SLAVERY DID NOT BENEFIT BLACK PEOPLE.
To the contrary, it is the very lack of oppression and involuntary servitude that benefits all peoples. This Federal corporation called America is not only the financial beneficiary of slavery, but has grown into the powerhouse that it is precisely because of the achievements of Black people unencumbered by slavery—not because of it. Get it right people!
My rage
This morning (01/19/2023) I'm listening to an interview of Jason Reynolds, the National Ambassador of Young Peoples Literature at the Library of Congress, and talented author of "Ghost" and "Stamped" and advocate of children and their wonder.
he is reminding me that as I've been resetting myself since the beginning of the year, i have unconsciously and silently reconnected with certain emotions that I (like so many others) had pushed down and compacted over the last year.
All of the events and happenings of 2022 were balled up in a mass ... deep in the pit of my intestines. Most prominent of those, and fighting to be acknowledged and reconciled, is my Rage.
A conscious rage ... a conscious and constant thing.
James Baldwin sid that any conscious Black person living in America is in a constant state of anger. I've earned it and honestly ... I need it.
I need it so that I can tap into it when necessary ... to wield it to connect with the strength to fight and to fight against. To love even when i don't feel like it. To "notice" what others don't notice; and to see other quiet rages around me in the aura of other Black folk who feel the same, controlled, conscious rage.
My conscious rage forces me to deal, n a very careful and particular way, with the constant inequities and expectations of me solely because I am a Black woman.
. . . a Black woman in America; a Black woman living in the suburbs of Northern Florida; a Black woman navigating the shark-infested waters of Corporate America; a Black woman wading through the multi-cultural swamps that is our American society; a Black woman swimming in the vileness of today's dating pools a Black woman full of culture and language and intelligence and wonder and self-Ness ... this Black woman who cannot just be ... but who has to restrain herself in order to keep American restrained From her.
This Black woman rages ... inside ... controlled ... consciously ... silently.
I know something that everyone should know …
You ready? … All you need is LOVE to change hearts, minds and the world
Always a good time hanging with this chick. Hope y’all ended your weekend on a good note … I sure did!
HUMBLE is a state of being ... it is recognizing that we are not here to be more important than or to show that we are better than others.
To the contrary, we are here to use our importance to make a difference in the lives of others.
There’s something that I’ve realized in this “I quit dating” phase that I’m in. That I want to build friendships with men whom I’m attracted to and who have the "stuff" to be my husband. I want that friendship to turn into a relationship (bypass dating) and eventually a life-long marriage.
Dating is too messy. As a friend told me this morning (Corey on 04/24), dating is for exercising options, not for emotional connection or commitment. He’s right, and I don’t want that kind of situation anywhere in my life right now. I want connection and commitment; someone who sees me as valuable; someone who checks on me to see how I’m doing and if I need anything; someone who sees me as a friend—with all the rewards and expectations and responsibilities of being a friend; someone who I think of fondly—not with worry or stress; and finally, someone who wants me included in every aspect of his life.
I want to get to know him free from the tangles of dating and all the social bullshit that comes with that weirdly outdated, yet messy modern concept.
So, my lovelies ... my new journey begins.